This morning, in the middle of home schooling these five kiddos, Tim hugged me and said, "Last night I was with a beautiful woman. She was wearing a silky, shimmery blue night gown and had on sexy makeup. You don't look anything like her. I think I may have accidentally cheated on you."
Ain't that the way life goes? Sometimes you get to be the hot mama with deep blue eye shadow and maroon-stained lips. But then the clock strikes midnight and you're just the pony-tailed girl in a sweatsuit and cotton undies. sigh. As I pondered this double-sided existence, I was reminded of the musical "Into the Woods". In our high school performance of it, Tim was "The Baker" and I was "Rapunzel" his estranged sister. Estranged meaning locked in a doorless tower. The play is an amazing intertwining of several classic fairy tales and is quite entertaining, especially if you see the one with the anatomically correct Big Bad Wolf costume. 'nuff said.
Anyway, there is a scene in the play in which the Baker's wife and Prince Charming rendezvous in the woods, after which his charm seems to run short and she's left pondering the void between a passionate love affair (an "And") and a mundane life in the bakery (the "Or").
"Why not both instead, there's the answer if you're clever;
Have a child for warmth, and a baker for bread, and a prince for...whatever!"
In the end, she realizes that the tension between the two realities is a necessary part of relationship. Or at least that's my interpretation of what she realizes. She also gets stomped on by a giant like the no-good-cheater she is but that's beside the point.
"Just remembering you've had an "and" when you're back to "or",
Makes the "or" mean more than it did before."
So, reality IS a two-faced (CENSORED)! No sense fighting it. See it for what it is and now... go have an "AND" with your hubby! Oh, and keep away from beanstalks. It's just best for everybody that way.